Actions speak louder than words. You can call yourself a best friend or even a friend for that matter. But guess what? That doesn't make you one. If there is anything I learned this weekend, it would be that and, quality is better than quantity. I think I am at a really weird time in my life where all of us are going different ways and figuring out what we want to do with our lives. Some of us want to travel the world, others are getting married or having babies. Then there is me. Working two jobs. Going to school full time. I don't have a lot of time and I know I am not even close to being a perfect friend. I know it. But I treat people how I like to be treated. I don't deny that I make mistakes here or there. You can't 'try' to be a good friend. If you are trying, you are failing. I will say it again, If you are trying, you are failing. You're either a good friend, or you aren't.
I had a complete melt down on Saturday. I got off of work and laid in my bed crying for a solid few hours. I was having a pity party. I text my dad, telling him how I was sick of always putting this effort into things that the other person doesn't seem to care about. He put it so simply, like always.
"Here is what you need to remember...If when we leave this earth and the worst thing people say is that you were always there for them, you were a good friend and lived a good life"
Moral of the story, don't waste you time on people who don't care. Actions tell you if they care. It may be hard to accept they don't care but life is too short to put engery into something that is not there.
Live and let go.
This post is jumbeled, I know it is. A bunch of my feelings trying to fit onto one page. But, the people who are good friends, show you, tell you and you know they do. Put your time and energy into those who care because in the end, those will be the ones who are standing by your side. Forget the rest.
